Communicating
Good sexual relationships are not simply a matter of pleasing your partner in bed. It is even more so a matter of pleasing your partner outside of bed in my opinion. You can’t just expect that the only thing that matters is whether or not you’ll go down or not (although at the beginning stages of a relationship that can be an important factor in deciding whether or not you want to continue the relationship or not. I once dumped a man because he wouldn’t go down and when he did try it once he acted like it was the supreme sacrifice). How you make your partner feel outside of the bedroom is really important.
In my past relationship with my children’s father we had quite good sex at times. In fact, it wasn’t until I broke up with him that I found out that not all men were as good in bed as he was. But ultimately, it was the way he made me feel out of bed that ruined our relationship. I felt like I was just an accessory to him. I was just there to complete the pretty little picture he had in his mind of what he wanted his life to be like. We rarely talked, we didn’t do anything together. I felt like I was not important to him.
Everyone needs to feel important. Everyone needs to be stimulated intellectually and emotionally. Conversation, quality time, and emotional sustenance are all an important part of a relationship that significantly contributes to the well being of a good sexual relationship.
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